October is National Bullying Prevention Month. At the Law Offices of Craig
Goldenfarb, we feel that bullying is an important issue that every parent
should be aware of, as any child can be the victim or perpetrator of bullying.
Education is important to every child's development, but approximately
1 in every 10 students drops out or changes schools because of bullying.
Bullying is described as "various types of behavior from physical
attacks, to destroying one's personal property or clothing, verbal
abuse, starting rumors, name calling, verbal attacks online as well as
other forms of cyberbullying." Here are some tips that have worked
for parents when discussing the topic of bullying with their children:
Raise the issue. Don’t wait. There is no need to wait for an incidence of bullying to occur. Raise these
issues as soon as possible, as a classroom and community.
Let students know what is expected of them. It often isn’t spelled out. Tell your students and children exactly
what you’re expecting of them as members of a school, family, team
and community. “I expect you to… act respectfully…
treat others well… participate in the positive environment of your
home or school… if you don’t, you will continue to hear from
Clearly define the values that are important in the environment. Identify your values and talk about them; provide opportunities for discussing
how we use them or have failed to use them in our daily lives.
Don't kid a kid. Young people never misread our true expectations of them. They simply establish
their priorities in accordance with ours. If we say that bullying is a
priority to us, it needs to be. If we only talk and do not act, kids know
it is not a true priority.
Let it be known there will be zero tolerance for bullying. Define exactly what you mean by this. What exactly will your response be?
Praise acts of support among peers. Yes, it’s cool to be kind.
Set aside some time this month to discuss the topic of bullying with your children.